While I was driving to work this afternoon, I heard a good illustration from the radio talk show by a lady in the radio station.
There was this couple who has been arguing and quarrelling until they decided to seek advice from one Chinese Sage. The husband went first and told his side of the story to the Sage and emphasizing that he was right and the wife was wrong all along. After listening, the Sage finally said, "You are right!".
The next day, it was the wife's turn. She told her side of the story and of course telling the Sage that she was right and the husband was wrong. At the end, the Sage said, "You are right!".
When she went back and discussed the outcome of their consultation, they were surprised to discover that the Sage told each the same answer : "You are right!".
They decided to confront the Sage and said, "How can it be possible that each one of us is right at the same time. There must be one of us who is in the wrong. The Sage said, "You are right!".
I think that this is a good story for premarital counselling.
5 comments:
i dont understand. totally lost here.
"You are right!"
Of course both of them will feel that they are equally right - otherwise they won't be so eager to tell their side of the story. However when they confronted the sage, they querried : How can both be right, one of us must be wrong - to which the sage confirmed their discovery - so the question is : Which one of them is right ?
In a marital dispute, there is no pat answer - it's a culmination of events, incidents etc..
When you see from you own perspective, the chances are that you will tend to think that you are rght and the other is always wrong. The truth is problems involving more than one person are never attributed to the fault of one party. This is particularly true in the case of marital problems. As the saying goes, it takes two to tango. When the sage finally said to the couple together, "You are right !", it was an affirmation that they are now right to know that two persons cannot be right at the same time. This calls for reflection on a larger perspective rather than solely on a personal perspective alone. Sorry for the loooooooong lecture.
My answer is "I am right,now and forever"!!!
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