Saturday, March 24, 2018

Christmas 2017 Photo Shoots

The Studio finally delivered all the photos to me on 24 March 2018 which we took on 22 December 2017, just two days shy of three months.

It is extremely rare for every member of the family to be able to gather and meet as a whole family. So, when we managed to meet as a complete family last Christmas, we decided to have photo shoot by a professional photographer, Louis Pang. 

It was a fun experience except for the little one. Even with super fast snapping speed by the cameraman, her teary poses could not be avoided. One day in the future when she looks back, she might exclaim, "Why didn't I hold my crisp smile just for a teeny-weeny five seconds longer!". Well, that's part and parcel of growing pain.

Monday, February 19, 2018

Chineseness

Shortly after our Company Annual Lunch on 12.03.2018, I was driving back to the office with one of my staff members, Terence when our conversation turned to Chinese New Year traditions. To my surprise, I discovered that many customs commonly practiced before the 1970s are still very much alive in his family today.

This staff member, who is of mixed heritage - a Sino, with a Chinese father and a Kadazan mother - still observes several traditional rituals during Chinese New Year. Among them: taking a bath on New Year's Eve with water boiled with pomelo leaves, refraining from the use of foul language throughout the CNY celebrations, and avoiding sweeping the floor on the first day of the new year.

What amazed me was how enduring these beliefs remain. The ritual bath with pomelo leaf-infused water, meant to cleanse away bad luck and repel evil spirits, continues to be observed with sincerity. Equally fascinating is the taboo against sweeping on the first day of the new year, rooted in the fear of inadvertently sweeping away incoming fortune and prosperity. It’s remarkable to see how these deeply rooted traditions persist even in mixed-cultural households, standing as a testament to the enduring power of ancestral customs.

This year, we celebrated Chinese New Year in Batu Pahat, staying at a homestay in a quiet housing estate near Sri Gading. As the clock struck midnight on Chinese New Year’s Eve, the celebrations erupted with a familiar frenzy - firecrackers began exploding at the house next door and soon echoed throughout the entire neighborhood. The sky lit up with flashes and booms, and for the next hour, any hope of sleep was futile.

Although firecrackers are officially banned in Malaysia, their absence has never truly been enforced. Not a single year has passed in Malaysian history without the sound and spectacle of firecrackers ushering in the new year. One way or another - by hook or by crook - some Chinese families always manage to get their hands on them. For many, the very thought of celebrating Chinese New Year without firecrackers is unthinkable. It’s more than just noise and light; it's a cultural symbol believed to drive away evil spirits and welcome prosperity with a bang.

In the end, I found myself circling back to a fundamental question: What defines a Chinese person? Is it purely genetics? Are you Chinese simply because you carry Chinese DNA? Many would argue that this is too simplistic a definition.

A more meaningful answer might be: A Chinese is someone who consciously preserves and practices Chinese culture, traditions, and values - even those that may seem outdated or irrelevant in today's fast-paced, technology-driven world. But this raises another question: if a non-Chinese embraces and faithfully upholds all these customs and traditions, can they be considered Chinese too?

This dilemma becomes even more personal when you start feeling that your own sense of Chineseness - your cultural identity - is slowly slipping away. That very feeling often sparks a deeper urgency to hold on to what's left: the language, the rituals, the symbols, the stories passed down through generations. Perhaps this is why Chinese culture has proven so remarkably resilient. Despite political pressures, restrictive legislation, or even attempts at cultural assimilation, it continues to thrive - adapting, resisting, and persisting.

Yet it’s important to remember that Chineseness is not something fixed or frozen in time. It is not a static identity. Like all cultures, it evolves - quietly reshaping itself through each generation, blending with new influences while still holding on to its roots. And perhaps that fluidity is the secret to its endurance.

Decorating trees with angpow is a fairly new 
phenomenon, probably borrowed from the idea 
of decorating a Christmas tree. 

Thursday, February 01, 2018

Lunar Eclipse & Blood Moon

In the days leading up to 31.01.2018, social media and news platforms were abuzz with excitement over an extraordinary astronomical event - a rare convergence of three lunar phenomena: a supermoon, a blue moon, and a total lunar eclipse, also known as a blood moon. This remarkable alignment had not been witnessed for 152 years, with the last occurrence dating back to 31.03.1866.

A supermoon occurs when the full moon is at its closest point to Earth in its elliptical orbit - approximately 360,199 km away, compared to the average distance of 382,900 km. At this proximity, the moon appears about 14% larger and 30% brighter than usual. It was also a blue moon, the term given to the second full moon in a single calendar month. The third phenomenon - a total lunar eclipse - happens when the Earth aligns directly between the sun and the moon, casting a shadow over the moon. The eerie red hue of the blood moon is the result of sunlight passing through the Earth’s atmosphere; the shorter blue wavelengths are scattered while the longer red and orange wavelengths are refracted and projected onto the moon's surface.

Not wanting to miss this once-in-a-lifetime celestial spectacle, we joined the enthusiastic crowd at Yayasan Sabah, where the event was co-organized by the Sabah Stargazers.

There, we had the good fortune of meeting an experienced stargazer who had brought along a powerful telescope. He generously allowed strangers to peer through it and even shared his phone contact with many of us. Through his updates, we were able to follow all the phases of the eclipse as it unfolded - a gesture that truly enhanced the magic of the night.

The stargazer who shared all the sightings
with the public,
Time at 20:10
Time at 20:36
Time at 20:45 - Beginning of Blood Moon.
Time at 20:52
Time at 20:57
Time at 21:25 - Full Eclipse
Time at 21:36
Time at 22:14

Friday, January 12, 2018

The Passage of Time

A chat with my grandchildren Nathan and Grace would instantly confirm that time has indeed whizzed by faster than we knew it. As acknowledged by many, time flies faster as we get older!

Nathan, a people person has grown leaps and bounds. I was amazed at his improvement in vocabulary, conversational and reading skill. Gracie who finds the brother an inspiration is catching up fast and doing well. Obviously, she is beginning to have a mind of her own. Both are unique but never stingy with their affection for their gung-gung and po-po.

This time, they were given total freedom and were allowed to "camp" with the grandparents. We could tell that they had thoroughly enjoyed every moment of it just as much as we had with them.
"Camping" with grandparents.
Bedtime Story, a Must before Sleep.
All Set for Christmas!
At Tun Fuad Park.
At the Restaurant of H Benjamin Residence, Kundasang.
At Kinabalu Golf Club, Tanjung Aru.
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At a Mamak Restaurant waiting for their favorite Roti Tissue
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Durian in Ranau. Gracie thoroughly enjoyed the King of the Fruits but not so much for Nathan.

The Organizer

It didn't take long to notice the house had a unique visitor. The sofa cushions were re-arranged with specific colour pattern. Shoes were neatly laid out. Her story books neatly arranged. Our little helper had offered free service without us asking or urging! 

I was fascinated by her desire for order and neatness. Whether it's a DNA-driven or learned trait, with proper nudging, it should be an asset for this adorable little young lady, Gracie, my pretty granddaughter.
While she may have different poses to watch the TV,  the usual pose was - lying on three similar colour sofa cushion which I believe would provide added comfort! :)

Thursday, January 11, 2018

The Language of Heart Pounding & Finger Pointing

Our third grandchild, Livvie proved to be a difficult nut to crack as far as warming up with her grandparents was concerned. Her tolerance level to be cuddled by her po-po and gung-gung was unusually short. This was made worst if she caught sight of her parents. Her separation anxiety would quickly set in.

Throughout the attempts to warm the relationship, she had used her sign language of "heart pounding" skillfully and effectively to cut short her separation anxiety. Heart pounding was followed by finger pointing to the direction of her parents. The concern of her parents was of course whether her "Please" requests (sometimes tearfully) should be entertained or denied! In the end, the requests were normally honored.

My understanding of sign language for "Please" is placing the hand over the left chest and move in circular motion. But her pounding gesture must have been a non-verbal desperate "please"! (Smile...)..... Still, I was impresed and fascinated by her maturity at such tender age. She chose to communicate her desire in clear sign language rather than through typical crying and wailing!
Getting ready her finger pointing language!
Don't be deceived by this. This lasted barely
5 seconds! Hahahaha.....
This was probably the longest because 
she lost sight of her parents!
Look closely to her teary eyes with her po-po!