Monday, December 28, 2020

Chapter 28: Struggle to Have an Education

Recently, in the Facebook private group called "Lok Yuk Secondary School KK Old Photos", a former schoolmate recounted her story after she completed her Form 3 in 1964 in Jesselton then (Now called Kota Kinabalu). She was told by her father to discontinue her study and instead  to look for a job. Even though it was not what she had hoped for, she obeyed and found a job as a Receptionist in a newly built hotel. But fortunately, the school where she studied had a very kind principal who took the trouble and went to look for her at the hotel and convinced her to resume her study. That gesture emboldened her and she then pleaded with her father (in tears) and her father finally consented. She then resumed her Form 4 four months late!

In those days, it was rather common for parents to stop the older children from continuing schooling and to start working to supplement the family income. Families were comparatively large and 5-kid families were not uncommon in those days. 

I too had a similar experience liked this schoolmate of mine. Even before I took the Form 5 government examination in 1969, I was told by my parents not to continue to Form 6 but to look for a job. Much against my liking, I too consented, But privately without my parents' knowledge, I applied to do Form 6 in Sabah College. I also applied for jobs and I managed to secure a job as a laboratory technician at the Queen Elizabeth Hospital. I was successful in my Form 6 application and Sabah College offered me a place in the Lower Six Science Class. I told my parents about this offer and at the same time also reported for work at QE Hospital. 

Somehow, my parents could sense my deep disappointment for not being able to continue my study. Just two days after reporting for work at QE Hospital, they told me to stop work and instead to report to Sabah College. That decision turned out to be one of the major turning points in my life. 

Of course, that was not the end of the story. After I passed my Form 6 government examination (HSC) in 1971, I could not afford to continue tertiary education and I had no choice but to get a job. I managed to secure a job as a Draftsman in the Structural Engineering Design Office of JKR Hqs. 

Still, my desire to continue further study did not end after securing a job at JKR. I applied to a few Universities in UK to do a civil engineering degree course. Among them, University of Southampton made an offer to me. However, a letter of support from someone who was financially sound and had a bank account was required. A kind friend managed to convince her mother who ran a sundry shop to get her bank to write a letter of financial support which was sent to the University. By then, even with an offer from a university in UK, the idea of taking up such offer was still a monumental challenge because of the lack of and uncertainty in finance.

Just when I was caught in two minds about whether to pursue the offer, I saw an advertisement in a local newspaper of an offer of scholarship to do an engineering degree course in a local university. I applied and I was successful and secured a place in the University of Malaya. Finally, my dream to pursue a tertiary education in civil engineering became a reality in 1973.

Upon my graduation, I had my father to accompany me to witness my convocation where I was conferred the Bachelor Degree in Civil Engineering in June 1978 at the University Auditorium. It was the only trip that I had travelled with my father alone. He was indeed a proud man and though I had never asked him about the past, I am sure that my dad must have been happy that the decision he made to allow me to continue my Form 6 was the right one.

Looking back, the pursuit of an education particularly the tertiary education had almost been an impossibility. Yet, in the end, it turned out well. Best of all, it was in the University where I studied that I met my wife! 

Life would have been monotonous if it is smooth sailing all the way. It is the twists and turns and the unpredictability that enliven the journey. True to Roman 8:28 - In all things God works together with those who love Him to bring out what is good.

Left: Photo taken in a studio with my father after the convocation in June 1978.
Right: Photo taken with my future wife immediately after convocation at Dewan Tunku Chancellor.
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Life would have been totally different if this offer had been
pursued. But then, this was not a path I was destined to.

Friday, December 25, 2020

Family Get-Together

2020 is an unprecedented year. Because of Covid-19 pandemic, borders of countries are shut and even within country, visits to neighbours are restricted.

This year, our annual plans to visit our children's family in Australia and Singapore were pulverized. With the latest news of the mutation of a more lethal strain of the Covid-19 virus, the hope for overseas  trips and tours may be further delayed.

A new norm nevertheless has emerged. Friends, family members and even unrelated individuals found new way to connect. Zoom and many similar video communication platforms have gained instant fame to link people all over the world virtually together.

In the absence of an actual physical get-together, there are no shortage of ingenious ideas to connect family members together. Our grandchildren in Perth are really good at coming up with games to keep the rest of the family especially the younger ones entertained.

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Our latest granddaughter was born in the midst of the Covid-19 pandemic. Until today, we have yet to cuddle and hug her. Yet through online get-together, we are glad to see her growing up fast day by day.

As in some cases of sibling rivalry, older kids normally take a bit of time to adjust to the perceived "rival" from the new addition to the family and a sense of loss of attention time from parents and grandparents. In one of the online chats, Livvie introduced her grandparents as "uncle and aunty" to her new sister :)
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Unlike previous years, the traditional annual Winter Solstice family reunion dinner could not be held this year. Instead, an online virtual reunion was organized. It brought together the extended family members from West Malaysia, London and Perth Australia. Unfortunately, the Australian signal was poor and the participation from Australia was rather minimal. It nevertheless allowed the rest of the family to get to know a new member to the extended family - Dan Partington, the hubby of Erika who now reside in London.
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This year, the whole big family from Malaysia, Singapore and Australia celebrated our grandson, Nathan's 10th birthday online! While, we could not actually taste the birthday cake, it was compensated by creative fun time contributed by all!